Wow Jade, congratulations! What a miracle. It seems like the surrender, acceptance, and release of expectations is what often allows people’s bodies to do their thing and conceive without all the stress. As annoying as those stories are for those of us who are in the throes of pushing and forcing and controlling the process, it does seem to be a trend. And it kind of makes sense.
I’m just about at that point myself, where I’m stopping treatment and stopping all the supplements and teas and acupuncture and blood work because the stress has taken such a toll on me that I now have ulcers. Like, that’s not good. That’s not a body that wants to have a baby. I’m letting go and accepting my fate, and taking a break to restore myself before I decide what’s next (which may involve egg donation or adoption, both of which are processes I’ve already initiated).
But there’s a little part of me that wouldn’t be surprised if it finally happens once I stop trying; once I’m no longer obsessing about every phase of my cycle and how soon my period is due and whether I ate the right hormone-balancing breakfast. I’m planning a big road trip this summer/fall, and it wouldn’t surprise me at all if I found myself pregnant on the eve of my departure (because I finally let myself relax and get excited about something else), and of course that would be a miracle. But if not, I’ll finally get to enjoy my belated honeymoon in Alaska!
I’m thinking of you and sending all the good vibes, and I do hope you’re able to enjoy every moment of this pregnancy. You deserve it. ❤️
Thank you Liz. I’m happy to read the excitement in your message about your own future whichever way, or path that may be.
I wouldn’t say my story is the classic stopped treatment and it just happened (a meticulously medicated, immune treatment protocol frozen embryo transfer was not without its stress and pushing/forcing!!) but my mindset was like you say of acceptance and surrender. I had my back up plan waiting that I had worked hard to be equally excited about - I didn’t hang every shred of my hope on this one embryo.
I saw it rather as a stepping stone to two very different paths but both with children at the end of them. I suppose that created a sense of mother energy and not succumbing to the intrusive thoughts of being ‘infertile’ x
I read this yesterday, Jade, but I wanted to come back and say how much I’m wishing you well, wishing you peace. I was awake around midnight last night and found myself thinking about your essay. I don’t know that I pray much these days, but found myself unable to sleep and wanting to send whatever goodness I could over to you.
Thank you so much Ema. I’m grateful to be on the receiving end of any helpful energy! I had a friend instruct her step dad to send me good karma too...he has no idea who I am or what is happening but he did it!
Wow Jade, congratulations! What a miracle. It seems like the surrender, acceptance, and release of expectations is what often allows people’s bodies to do their thing and conceive without all the stress. As annoying as those stories are for those of us who are in the throes of pushing and forcing and controlling the process, it does seem to be a trend. And it kind of makes sense.
I’m just about at that point myself, where I’m stopping treatment and stopping all the supplements and teas and acupuncture and blood work because the stress has taken such a toll on me that I now have ulcers. Like, that’s not good. That’s not a body that wants to have a baby. I’m letting go and accepting my fate, and taking a break to restore myself before I decide what’s next (which may involve egg donation or adoption, both of which are processes I’ve already initiated).
But there’s a little part of me that wouldn’t be surprised if it finally happens once I stop trying; once I’m no longer obsessing about every phase of my cycle and how soon my period is due and whether I ate the right hormone-balancing breakfast. I’m planning a big road trip this summer/fall, and it wouldn’t surprise me at all if I found myself pregnant on the eve of my departure (because I finally let myself relax and get excited about something else), and of course that would be a miracle. But if not, I’ll finally get to enjoy my belated honeymoon in Alaska!
I’m thinking of you and sending all the good vibes, and I do hope you’re able to enjoy every moment of this pregnancy. You deserve it. ❤️
Thank you Liz. I’m happy to read the excitement in your message about your own future whichever way, or path that may be.
I wouldn’t say my story is the classic stopped treatment and it just happened (a meticulously medicated, immune treatment protocol frozen embryo transfer was not without its stress and pushing/forcing!!) but my mindset was like you say of acceptance and surrender. I had my back up plan waiting that I had worked hard to be equally excited about - I didn’t hang every shred of my hope on this one embryo.
I saw it rather as a stepping stone to two very different paths but both with children at the end of them. I suppose that created a sense of mother energy and not succumbing to the intrusive thoughts of being ‘infertile’ x
Yes, I think being in the right energy is key!
I read this yesterday, Jade, but I wanted to come back and say how much I’m wishing you well, wishing you peace. I was awake around midnight last night and found myself thinking about your essay. I don’t know that I pray much these days, but found myself unable to sleep and wanting to send whatever goodness I could over to you.
Thank you so much Ema. I’m grateful to be on the receiving end of any helpful energy! I had a friend instruct her step dad to send me good karma too...he has no idea who I am or what is happening but he did it!
Jade this has brought me to tears to read, I’m so happy for you both, enjoy this moment, you deserve it, so much love xxx
Thank you Danielle we are enjoying more than stressing which has been a surprise!